I know how men like to complain that women are whores, but the very same thing could be said about men, to the point that dating has become more of a nuisance than anything. It’s not something you think of it driven by lust and passion and thoughts of a bloodline. If you want to be exclusive and give up the app and he’s not ready to stop seeing other people then a relationship isn’t going to work. It’s at this point that either people should be honest about what they want going forward, you either want to continue this “casually” with no intention of getting serious so you can have your cake and then some, or you wanna kick it monogamously. Take each of them as they come. I’ve spoken with many women about this and the overwhelming majority of them feel that if a man sees other women or doesn’t commit to one woman, it’s some somehow not a FULL, COMPLETE, or REAL love. You’ll have more freedom to do what you want, when you want, and be able to see her when you want to, rather than when she calls. For different guys, different things. We shouldn’t NEED to do anything. I think your logic is based on a percentage of women and men in a given society (hint: western culture) and also has to do with age group. If you ask the men what woman they wanted. If you require specific advice regarding your personal challenges, always consult a registered practitioner. Youre not tough enough to be with her. Or just read the title and assume you knew what it was about? Free love, without trying to control and possess the other is so much lighter, freer, happier than this modern concept of airtight relationships, where the other person has zero room to breathe. I’m not sure how to say what I need to say. Are you an American? Arpitha Acharya's answer is great and really comprehensive. In fact, do the opposite. And I’m not against casual dating – provided both parties know what they’re getting into. A while ago I was dating a girl and stumbled onto her online dating profile. Why would I even want to see other women if I was finally in a stable long term relationship? Are you trying to affirm you would not mind having sex with a woman who is seeing others as you “allowed or encouraged her to do” just for the sake of being allowed to do the same? We are free to choose to sleep with multiple partners, one partner or none at all. This article has clearly awoken some deeply held limitations in your unconscious and if you take the opportunity to open up, rather than close down, you could learn a lot about yourself and grow through this. By the way I read both of his books. As if there aren’t enough gray areas in dating! It’s like looking at some boy all shriveled up inside just because he’s too scared to let someone hurt him. But it sure as hell is better than finding a “loose” woman who will agree to be non-exclusive, because no normal woman would agree to it. Again, hypocritical at it’s worst, only a stupid dick can write something like this. but anyway. This article makes total sense and all of those reasons are perfectly good reasons for engaging in open relationships. I don’t understand you guys. It’s not like guys have huge need for it, it’s the women who want it. This is just one experiment. This little treatise on how to pull women in by giving them the illusion of leeway is everything wrong with society. There are actually good guys out there with no intention of laying 1000s of women, but just want to learn how to approach and attract one. What you think about this? And then, "if they say they’re seeing other people it’s totally appropriate to ask if that means they’re sleeping with other people." A beta male grooming insecure future beta males to not only accept, but desire to be cuckolds. A shame you haven’t ran into me yet then. Let the chips fall where they will…everyone is different and there isn’t a label or a box to stuff us in…it’s like humanity decided that manogamy is just to separate us from the animals…are we really so much different than cats or dogs? The other girl he had dated for a few months and they broke up but remained friends.… Great idea and fastest way to contract or spread a STD, especially a fabulous papiloma without symptoms and can most likely cause infertility or ovarian cancer 10 years down the road when you all but forgot you were even going out together for a little while. she now is my girl, my lover and my other half for life. With productive, smart and positive people only. After all, I’m sure she doesn’t want to be licking some other girls bodily fluids off your body and so will be do the right thing. Ever seen a cat that would fetch? Even taking one step in that direction is suicide. He is completely right. Intimate connection in relationships is not achieved when both people are in sole possession of the other, but when both can bask in pure appreciation of the other. This girl who’s leading you on may tell you about all the guys who are giving her attention, and she may even tell you about a guy she’s falling for. Personally I feel like entering into a ‘relationship’ – PARTICULARLY an exclusive one – is the best way to kill ‘relating’. Overcoming the feeling associated with these insecurities: “What if she likes him more?”, “Is she still attracted to me?” are often for me anyway associated with a cringing feeling in the upper chest, especially when I really like someone. In other words, if you wind up being intimate with someone then I would want to know so we can practice safe sex because right now as partners we don’t use condoms because we are exclussive to each other.